Some of the rewards of recovery from co-dependence are suggested here:
- We are open-minded and able to consider the opinions of others.
- We have outgrown “black and white” thinking and recognize that no person or situation is entirely good or bad.
- We avoid self-pity and are open to the abundance of life.
- We do not expect special consideration from anyone.
- We are able to manage our temper.
- We patiently tolerate reasonable delays and can adjust to accommodate others’ needs and schedules.
- We have outgrown envy and jealousy, and are honestly glad when others enjoy success.
- We accept responsibility for our own actions without trying to make excuses.
- We do not try to control other people, allowing them to have their own life experience.
- We are gracious losers and can endure defeat and disappointment without whining or complaining.
- We are not chronic “fault-finders,” habitually blaming neither ourselves or others.
- We are not emotionally devastated by perceived slights or minor disappointments.
- We do not easily assume or take on other peoples’ emotions.
- We feel an organic connection to humankind as a whole and gratefully contribute our part to society.
- We strive to behave like an ideal, loving parent and can empathically nurture both children and adults.
Inspired by a pamphlet from an Alcoholics Anonymous group in Akron, Ohio, circa 1950.
Adapted and modernized by Andy W. . This version ©2019